Ey sen, meyhanenin k\u00f6\u015fesinde eriyip giden, elinde kadehle keyfini arayan, ama asl\u0131nda her yudumda kendini kaybeden, \u201cbiraz rahatlayay\u0131m\u201d derken yava\u015f yava\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kan arkada\u015f\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eunu bil ki, her bir yudum sadece sarho\u015flu\u011fu art\u0131rmaz; ruhunu, bedenini, onurunu, hayat\u0131n\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f eritir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn: Sabah uyand\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ba\u015f d\u00f6nmesi, Ayna kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda donuk bak\u0131\u015f, Kaybolan onur ve k\u0131r\u0131lan ili\u015fkiler\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kendini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f hissedersin; elinde bardak, kafanda karanl\u0131k\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsene: bir bardakla ba\u015flayan zevk aray\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir g\u00fcn mide bulant\u0131s\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc, sosyal izolasyon, \u201cne yap\u0131yorum ben\u201d pi\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla<\/strong> son buluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130statistiklerde rakamlar sadece say\u0131d\u0131r; ama her rakam bir insan, bir aile, bir y\u0131k\u0131m demektir. \u0130statistikler anlat\u0131yor: her y\u0131l milyonlarca insan\u0131n hayat\u0131, alkole teslimiyet y\u00fcz\u00fcnden par\u00e7alan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her i\u00e7ki masas\u0131nda oturanlardan biri, belki sen, kontrol\u00fcn\u00fc kaybetmi\u015f, ailesine, dostuna, kendi vicdan\u0131na ihanet ediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Beyni bulan\u0131k, kalbi a\u011f\u0131r, ahlaki pusulas\u0131 \u015fa\u015fm\u0131\u015f halde\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u015fte sen i\u015fte o rakamlar\u0131n i\u00e7inde bir adams\u0131n. Ne haldesin, bir fark\u0131na varsan\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ger\u00e7ek hayatlar da bunu do\u011fruluyor. Bir gen\u00e7 adam, 18 ya\u015f\u0131nda i\u00e7meye ba\u015flad\u0131; 25\u2019inde g\u00fcnde 2\u20133 litre votka<\/strong> i\u00e7iyordu. Cildi sarard\u0131, organlar\u0131 iflas etti, 3 kez hapse d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc, en sonunda intihar giri\u015fiminde bulundu<\/strong>. \u015eimdi hastanede tedavi g\u00f6r\u00fcyor ve herkese \u201calkolden kurtulabilirsiniz, umudunuzu kaybetmeyin\u201d diye anlat\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nice \u00fcnl\u00fc akt\u00f6r, en y\u00fcksek maa\u015fl\u0131 TV-sinema y\u0131ld\u0131z\u0131 iken, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131klar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden kariyerini kaybetti; mahkeme s\u00fcre\u00e7leri, rehabilitasyonlar ve \u00e7alkant\u0131lar ya\u015fad\u0131. Ayakta kalmak i\u00e7in ne kadar zor m\u00fccadele etmeleri gerekti<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir anne, y\u0131llarca travmayla ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f; sonunda g\u00fcnde \u00fc\u00e7 \u015fi\u015fe votka<\/strong> t\u00fcketir hale geldi ve alt\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki o\u011flunun paras\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7alarak i\u00e7ki ald\u0131<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Aile kayb\u0131, toplumsal damgalanma, \u00fc\u00e7 kez \u201c\u00f6l\u00fcmle burun buruna gelme\u201d\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bunlar art\u0131k istatistik de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ek trajediler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir zamanlar\u0131n y\u00fcksek kariyerleri, y\u00fcksek ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131 bile i\u00e7kiyle harcanabiliyor:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Baz\u0131 y\u0131ld\u0131zlar i\u00e7ki y\u00fcz\u00fcnden sahneleri hat\u0131rlam\u0131yor, performanslar\u0131 bozuluyor; baz\u0131lar\u0131 evliliklerini kaybediyor; baz\u0131lar\u0131 sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yitiriyor; baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise gen\u00e7 ya\u015fta hayat\u0131n\u0131 kaybediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7ki sadece sarho\u015fluk vermez. Beyni uyu\u015fturur. Onuru eritir. Vicdan\u0131 k\u00f6reltir. Aileyi y\u0131prat\u0131r. Sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bitirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7kiyle saklanan bo\u015fluk, hi\u00e7bir zaman ger\u00e7ekten kaybolmaz; her seferinde daha derin bir yara b\u0131rak\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn bir: sarho\u015flu\u011fun sabah\u0131 yok mu? D\u00fc\u015fen gurur, k\u0131r\u0131lan dostluklar, utan\u00e7la dolu sabahlar\u2026 \u0130\u00e7kinin verdi\u011fi k\u0131sa haz, uzun y\u0131llar\u0131n kararm\u0131\u015f an\u0131lar\u0131yla geri d\u00f6ner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir bardakla ba\u015flayan ser\u00fcven, karanl\u0131k bir d\u00fc\u015f yolculu\u011funa d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr; ne sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n kal\u0131r, ne onurun, ne de kendine sayg\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131lar\u0131, ba\u015f d\u00f6nmeleri, yanma ve mide bulant\u0131s\u0131\u2026 Bunlar sadece k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00f6rnekler; kalp yetmezli\u011fi, karaci\u011fer \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc, beyin hasar\u0131 ve sosyal izolasyon ise kar\u015f\u0131nda duran ger\u00e7ek canavarlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama belki en ac\u0131s\u0131, insan\u0131n i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e kendine ac\u0131maya ba\u015flamas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Arkada\u015flar g\u00fclerken sen kendini g\u00fcl\u00fcn\u00e7 hissedersin, ge\u00e7mi\u015fini hat\u0131rlad\u0131k\u00e7a utan\u0131rs\u0131n, gelece\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck\u00e7e korkars\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7ecek ne kadar \u00e7oksa, kendiyle y\u00fczle\u015fmek o kadar zor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130nsan nefsine h\u00e2kim olmal\u0131, \u015feytana teslim olmamal\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sen kendi nefsinde g\u00f6rmedi\u011fin kusuru, i\u00e7kiyle ba\u015fkas\u0131nda ar\u0131yorsun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama ger\u00e7ek d\u00fc\u015fman sensin; i\u00e7kiyle kendini y\u0131pratan, iradeni zay\u0131flatan, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutturan sen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir g\u00fcn kalk\u0131p da aynaya bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, o \u00e7irkin, soluk, bitkin ve yorgun y\u00fcz\u00fc g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde\u2026 i\u015fte o anda fark edeceksin: Hazlar\u0131n k\u0131sa, ac\u0131lar\u0131n kal\u0131c\u0131. \u0130\u00e7ki seni sadece sarho\u015f etmez, seni kaybettirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u015eimdi se\u00e7im senin:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Devam etmek ve kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131 yava\u015f yava\u015f \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fctmek,<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yok saymak yerine, nefsi terbiye etmek, onurunu ve sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 geri kazanmak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her yudum bir tercihtir; her se\u00e7im bir hayat \u00e7izer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sak\u0131n unutma: ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, i\u00e7indeki nefsine h\u00e2kim olmaktan, i\u00e7ki ve \u015feytan\u0131n telkinlerini yenmekten gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve unutma: her zaman pi\u015fman olmak, h\u00e2lini g\u00f6rmek, ac\u0131mak ve iradeni kullanmak senin elindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bak sana \u201c\u0130\u00e7ki Terapisi Ad\u0131m Rehberi\u201d<\/strong> \u015feklinde k\u0131sa ve sokak diline uygun, her i\u00e7ki an\u0131nda okunacak, hem akl\u0131 hem vicdan\u0131 hem de iman\u00ee duygular\u0131 uyand\u0131racak, 5-7 maddelik bir uygulama metni \u00e7\u0131kart\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bu, hem fark\u0131ndal\u0131k hem de pratik bir kontrol rehberi olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi der ki: \u201cBen kontrol ederim.\u201d Ama kontrol, i\u00e7ki eline ge\u00e7tikten sonra kaybolur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bir bakars\u0131n: \u00d6nce \u201csadece bug\u00fcn\u201d dersin, Sonra \u201cbir daha\u201d Ard\u0131ndan \u201cher g\u00fcn.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zamanla i\u00e7ki, senin karar veren kimli\u011fini, iradeni, akl\u0131n\u0131 ele ge\u00e7irir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bug\u00fcn i\u00e7kiyi eline ald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, Kalbinde bir \u00fcrperti var m\u0131?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Onurunu kaybetti\u011fin anlar geliyor mu akl\u0131na?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ailenin y\u00fcz\u00fcne bakmak istemedi\u011fin anlar oldu mu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n E\u011fer evet diyorsan, bu sadece bir \u201czevk\u201d de\u011fil; bir ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k, bir y\u0131k\u0131m sarmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Elbette var. T\u0131pk\u0131 yukar\u0131daki gen\u00e7 adam gibi, t\u0131pk\u0131 rehabilitasyonla tekrar aya\u011fa kalkm\u0131\u015f insanlar gibi\u2026 Her g\u00fcn pi\u015fmanl\u0131k + irade + yard\u0131m<\/strong> = yeniden do\u011fu\u015f demektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7ki seni ne kadar \u00e7irkin h\u00e2le getirirse getirsin, ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7 nefsine h\u00e2kim olmak<\/strong>, kendi kusurunu g\u00f6r\u00fcp ona hisse vermek, onu terbiye etmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve her yeni g\u00fcn, bu iradeyi kullanmak i\u00e7in bir f\u0131rsatt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bunu ad\u0131m ad\u0131m<\/strong> sokaktaki insan\u0131n anlayaca\u011f\u0131 dilde, nefsi ve vicdan\u0131 uyand\u0131racak bir formatta <\/strong>\u201cHer \u0130\u00e7ki An\u0131nda Okunacak, pratik, cebine s\u0131\u011facak 7 Maddelik Uygulama Rehberi\u201d<\/strong> h\u00e2line getirip, i\u00e7ki ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark eden herkesin cebine s\u0131\u011facak k\u0131sa c\u00fcmlelerle pratik bir terapi metnine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrelim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBu bardak benim hayat\u0131m\u0131 ele ge\u00e7irmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00d6fke, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k ve zaaf\u0131 kabul etmeden hi\u00e7bir \u015fey de\u011fi\u015fmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBu iste\u011fin kayna\u011f\u0131 nefsim ve \u015feytan\u0131n telkinleri.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u0131\u015far\u0131y\u0131 su\u00e7lama, kendi i\u00e7ini g\u00f6zlemle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7kiyi kald\u0131rmadan \u00f6nce derin nefes al. 5\u2019e kadar say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bedenini ve zihnini sakinle\u015ftir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sarho\u015fken yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n hatalar\u0131, k\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131n insanlar\u0131, kaybetti\u011fin onuru hat\u0131rla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her yudumun ger\u00e7ek sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcne getir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBen ger\u00e7ekten bunu istiyor muyum? Bu bana ne kazand\u0131r\u0131yor, ne kaybettiriyor?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7kinin k\u0131sa haz\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 uzun kay\u0131plar\u0131n\u0131 tart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBu sorunu sadece kar\u015f\u0131mda de\u011fil, kendi nefsimde de g\u00f6r\u00fcyorum.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00d6fke ve zaaf\u0131n\u0131 kabul et, ondan \u00f6\u011fren.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u00e7kiyi reddetmeye karar ver, her an hat\u0131rlat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Unutma: her yudum bir se\u00e7imdir, her se\u00e7im hayat\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izer.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bu rehberi her i\u00e7ki an\u0131nda sessizce okumak veya cebine yazmak, ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131kla y\u00fczle\u015fmeyi kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r ve iradeyi g\u00fc\u00e7lendirir<\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ey sen, meyhanenin k\u00f6\u015fesinde eriyip giden, elinde kadehle keyfini arayan, ama asl\u0131nda her yudumda kendini kaybeden, \u201cbiraz rahatlayay\u0131m\u201d derken yava\u015f yava\u015f hayat\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kan arkada\u015f\u2026 \u015eunu…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":687,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-686","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-muhtelif-konular","entry","simple"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/686","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=686"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/686\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":911,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/686\/revisions\/911"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/687"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=686"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=686"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kenankilicaslan.web.tr\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=686"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Bu Neden Bu Kadar Y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00e7kiyle Sava\u015fman\u0131n \u0130mk\u00e2ns\u0131z Oldu\u011fu Yan\u0131lsamas\u0131n\u0131 K\u0131r<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Senin \u0130\u00e7in Bir imtihan:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Bir \u00c7\u0131k\u0131\u015f Yok mu?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00c7K\u0130 TERAP\u0130S\u0130 \u2013 7 ADIMLIK PRAT\u0130K REHBER<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Fark Et<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Nefsi Tan\u0131<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Dur ve Derin Nefes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. Ge\u00e7mi\u015fin Dersini Hat\u0131rla<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Kendine Soru Sor<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. Hisse Ver<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. Karar Ver ve Tekrarla<\/h3>\n\n\n\n